Dr Phil episode Friday, May 21, 2010
This Friday you can see me on Dr Phil – wearing some gorgeous snakeskin, peep toe pumps, I might add; also wearing dark orange, which will never happen again. Dr Phil supports my book while he tries to get a couple teen girls to stop having so much dang sex. Something I loved about taping this episode was getting to meet Erin and Cassidy – Cassidy is the 14 year old on the show who has been with 14 guys sexually, and Erin is her mother, who loves her daughter dearly and wants to find a way to help her. I related so much to Cassidy, who was sleeping with these guys to try to fill something hurt inside her. And I respected and admired her mom so much for trying to support her daughter through it all. Erin and I shared a laugh, by the way, about the other teen on the show who was 15, in a serious relationship with her boyfriend, but whose father didn’t want her having sex. Are you kidding me? Erin whispered to me. I’d kill to be in that situation. Exactly – there’s nothing inherently wrong with a teenage girl having sex, as long as she’s doing it because she wants to, as opposed to trying to feel worthwhile because of it. This attitude that girls shouldn’t be sexual at all, that respecting your body means not letting anyone touch it (what??), is part of the stigma that has led to loose girl behavior. Sometimes I feel like this needs to be clarified: a loose girl craves male attention and will act out sexually – not because she aims to explore normal, natural impulses – but because she’s trying to feel like she matters because a boy likes her. It is not a girl who has a lot of sex. In other words, most all loose girls are girls who have a lot of sex. But all girls who have a lot of sex are NOT necessarily loose girls.
June 1st, 2010 at 6:05 am
I watched this show and loved it. I also have your book and love it! I think Dr. Phil did do a great job at bringing awareness of this problem to the public. Like many who have read your book, your story could be mine. I want to thank you for being brave enough to write it and let out all your secrets. I am seeking help and through the group, I realize that there is a huge stigma still concerning women and seeking help. I hope your book and Dr. Phil’s show, helps some young females seek help and stop destructive behaviors sooner than I did (I didn’t until my mid 30′s). Again, thank you for your bravery and honest book.